Why Breaking Tradition Never Felt so Right

When I married my husband, I was pretty traditional. He didn’t get to see my dress until I walked down the aisle. Looking back at our day I recognize that I felt a bit disconnected from what we were actually doing during the day of and lots of the itinerary felt like we were just doing what we were supposed to do. I think brides today have so many choices and can break all the rules they want as they plan their weddings to better reflect their relationships.

If you’re looking at which traditions to ditch and which to hang on to, I would 100% recommend including time for a ‘first look’ on your wedding day. Maybe even get crazy and spend the morning getting ready together. The great thing is that it’s entirely up to you. As a photographer, I think it’s a great idea and a great opportunity for photos that will give you all the feels years later, but even more than that, as a past bride I think taking 15 or 20 minutes to be with your soon to be husband, laugh together, have a drink, say a prayer, and ultimately just connect to each other before you stand in front of your loved ones is such a special opportunity

I’ll list out some tangible reasons you should do a first look:

1. Exchange letters in person

I’ve been a currier for those extremely heart-warming, tear inducing, love letters brides and grooms write to one another on the morning of their wedding. I think the only thing better than reading something like that is getting to snuggle and wipe some tears away from each other afterwards.

2. Bridals

I said this already, but I’ll say it again. Doing a first look completely changes your game plan for getting photos in during the rest of the day. Your makeup is fresh before your ceremony, you have not spilt anything on yourself yet (hopefully) and you are not exhausted from the mental energy it takes to throw a party for all your friends and family. These reasons alone will impact how you look in your first look photos and you will be glad to have them after your day has past and you’re looking back on the day you said I do.

3. Less Waiting Around

This may not be what you’re thinking about most as you plan your day, but your guest will definitely notice. By doing some or all of your photos ahead of time it allows for your wedding ceremony to flow more smoothly into a reception which equals less waiting around, maybe killing a whole afternoon, until it’s time for the reception. Then you can focus on celebrating, speeches, and all the dance offs.

These are the three main reasons why I would definitely say to go for a break in tradition and take a moment together before jumping into your future husband and wife roles. If weddings are about celebrating the love, then start by making time for the intimate moments and private forehead kisses right from the start. You won’t regret it!

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